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Love is risk !!

Someone told me that love is selfless , they were right.

What we give is not guarenteed that we will get in return and we also dont know that weather the person is fully into us or not ..?Strange yeah..

Many times we spend a lot time and energy , and emotional indulgance into someone who is not into us or is not willing to be with us..!! so the result is pain and suffering

But why do people face such traumas ..?

Have u ever think about it or not ..yes .From my own experience I realised that we should keep some boundries and we should know till which level we should get into intimate with our partners both emotionally and physically. As no body knows that what future is to be , yet nothing can be decided but still after going to some level of intimacy , its very hard for one in both to be get back. As being with friends is different and being with someone who is more than friend is different .

The other person should know the boundries to make with the other as all have different level of energies and its all that plays into role .

As in every relation boundries are important .It doesnt matter that u r friend , relative,mother and father or two boys are friend, even when two girls are friends it should be there .If there are no boundries the relationships fails.

As an Architect I know what works I do what is the role of civil engineers .We all have a specific field where we are masters so with respect to that for a better building of functionally and structurally. There should be boundries that should be maintained . Thus It’s important .

When the boundries are not set the works merge and tand traumas start the mutual trust and mutual respect is even lost.Even sometimes the relationships can be even so toxic than the vish (or poison) .That might harm us a lot

It would not kill us ones but keep on killing us regularly .

That would be so hard. Even in brother and sisters and father and sin there are some boundries that should be respected for a better life and long lasting relations.

So just keeping it short, we all should first set our boundries and than move forward As by being in boundries we would be more comfortable safe and even more happy we would enjoy our life to te fullest ..

try it in your life and be happy

have a nice day and keep glowing with a smile . 🙂

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The power of writing..!!

“this article is a key to a huge success”.

I will try to discuss a miracle which happen to us when we start writing things. It just acts like a pencil of sheke-laka-bo0om-bo0om– ‘ which Indians must remember. The serial we see in our childhood (born in 90’s).The thing which we draw actually becomes reality. The twist here is that, we need not to become artist but instead we have to just write instead of drawing.

The power of writing is that it brings power and all the ultimate fame and fortune in your life. This is the secret that usually all great men do. We all have heard that ‘writing a goal on a peace of paper actually clears half of our journey towards achieving it’. This is true , according to what I personally realised and observed. Also I have heard and seen the stories of all great men and people. They all do this .

Their is a whole psychology behind this. The ‘law of attraction‘gains magnetism and all the supernatural power of the world showers us with blessing. It is proven by science also. We all have heard our dadaji and dadiji and also papaji ( grand father ,grand mother and father taken in order)have scolded us to write question-answers again and again in order to remember them for a long time. And it truely works. Moreover it retains in our mind till the end of our lives .

Let me discuss some of the benefits of writing –

TO FIND INNERSELVES-During the bad times or during the hard times, when we lost our close one or during the fall of our business or health. Writing acts as a’ jadibooti‘( old medicine used in the Indian culture and is been mentioned in the religious book of Hindu in Geeta) which cures all the sufferings and help us to pass the bad time .It also gives strength and inner power to absorb all the pain and to resist the same.

FOR ACHIEVING GOALS -As I already mentioned that we cross our journey half when we write our goals. It acts as a foundation for all the victories. When we write the things something happens inside our body and mind. What ever we write its just acts in a same way. The Same way in which a computer works , when a programmer writes the codes for the software the same things happens within our mind. Whatever we write get feeded in our minds .It acts in a same way and the output is visible in the real world. It all depends on the programmer how he codes for the software thus all is same for us whatever we write good or bad actually happens in the real world. Our subconcious mind works at peak ,and attracts what we write. It will actually happen in the real world as its, been mentioned by the Napoleon Hill in his famous book .

POETRY AND LITERATURE -When going to the roots and trying to understand from the core what is observed is that all the great poets artist and all those masters to are related to the literature used to spend there time alone .And what they do is they keep on writing whatever comes to their mind and in this way they all got the power to instead the hearts of the people. The writing is the only thing that keeps the person motivated and also makes them to move ahead in life. It allows us to understand our selves and this ultimately helps us to understand the outer world more clearly.

TO-DO LIST – this is the modern culture which came into existence after the sharing of thaughts and ideas via internet. Many great men do this to achieve the things in our modern lives .Let me discuss why this has become more important nowadays because we all are living in the era where each and every ne has a very less time to think and achieve any thing. This method of making the list of work or task which we need to fulfil helps a lot. It keep ourselves stick to those specific tasks and also it guides us to walk towards those things. The power of our subconscious mind also helps a lot . When we write those tasks ion a piece old paper by pen ,There are 1000 % more chances of completion of those tasks. Once written down the task things will actually happen around. Weather we see the things or not . Mind plays a major role in this .

PURIFICATION OF SOUL- Whenever we write we feel light . Its the best way of keeping ourselves free from the inner pain or sufferings. Whenever we write our diary or any other thing we don’t say lie to ourselves .We are 100% sure of our feelings and after writing few pages we come to understand ourselves better by each word we write. It purifies our soul and also makes us more aware about our inner soul. This is all needed to find all victories in this world .

CURRENT SCENERIO – The current scenerio is that now we all are so much dependent on the digital medium we had lost the essence of writing the letters to our loved ones with our hands by the pen or ink .This created the boundries between the soul. IT IS MENTIONED IN THAT BOOK ‘HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND FINFLUENCE PEOPLE IN MODERN WORLD THAT WE ALL in this digital age we all are connected to millions but we actually not really connected to any one of them” This is actually true. We lost the soul connection only because we don’t write by pen , when we write by pen our feelings overflow the peice of paper with love. Might be the reason that why relationships now only limited to the lust and sex.

MENTAL ILLNESS and all separation from the real world and all loss from oneself.-The reason here is also the same. When we don’t write our fears, anxiety ,tension or don’t give the the outside path .There is a dense crowd of such negativities in our inner world which is than filled up with the pain, agony and lack of confidence in ourselves Which bring the mental deseases like Bipolardisorers and many other.

REMEMBERANCE OF TRUE LOVE -Did you taught why the love during the older times stayed for a long them because there exist the love on the piece of paper on which someone writes and express there emotions . But now in this digital age we keep ourselves connected to millions and we don’t even try to write letters to our loved ones . This brings some lack of romance between the two souls . This might be the one reason I’m not against the digital age but what I say is that we should not forget our old cultures and traditions ,rather we should use those traditional methods to have some flames in our romantic lifes.

Not keeping the topic so large in a conclusion ,I would like to share that we all should start the old fashion of writing the things down .It will bring change in your lives and also allows us to prosper more in this short life. It balances and helps us to efficiently manage our time and work. It also keeps us away from all the mental issues and problems . It helps us to keep motivated and acts as a guidelight to move ahead in life..!!

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Ask for Help.. it truely helps….

Asking for help is one of the best strategy used by the wise men .Seeking advice and asking for help, it really helps. This life is short and we have a little time to achieve goals’. One has to adopt the habit of asking help in this competetive world. This idea would be more clear, when you will stick to my words till the end of this blog.

As according to time, we adapt ourselves according to our enviornment .(rule of the science ‘Survival of the Fittest‘) .The one who is more adaptive and advanced survives. Similarly we have to modify ourselves according to time and conditions. It is well said that-

jamaane k saath chalna chahiye…”

So ,according to above concept and the theme if this post-

hum akele hi sab kr lenge”

…. fails .This concept is good for a short span or small victory but to achieve more its not worthy to do all things alone.

To achieve the public victory( refer to book- The 7 Habits of Effective people by Coveys Stephan)you have to rely on others for your need. This is more practical concept and proved too…(I am not encouraging to be selfish, be clear to what I say and find the boundry of my words).This depends on the law of ‘GIVE AND TAKE‘. If you will help others than only others will help you .Simple,follow this rule and keep moving on.

The whole world is now flying on the wings of modernisation and technology. We have abundance of money and all the materialistic things that we gather for our comfort. But what we lack is the time -‘God father of everything on this planet’. We have so little of this for our ownself.

Not going to deep and trying to be specific and focussed .Let me explain the gifts when we ask for help.

1-TIME–Time is the one of the best asset that we have .Its profit depends on how we invest it…?In every proffessional field he proffessionals have a good workload

TIME<<WORK

Thus, to enhance our efficiency and to and to do a large work within a given time frame. It does not shows that we are weak but it gives them the importance that they are being recognised and they are capable of doing something for others.

2-RELATIONSHIPS- In all this process we get engaged with others. And its natural when we ask for help than there is some type of communication .No matter what it be but it builds the relationship with the other person. It gives you two profits

  • your work is being completed
  • you get one more friend in your life

3-VISION-whenever we ask for help than there are two probabilities

  • the other will help
  • or not help

When they select the first than the two minds come into play and and the work would be far better and we will get a broad vision for ourself.

(If they help than they will surely give there best services to you,if they don’t than don’t mind, might be they don’t know how to do the work.? or they might facing there own work or problems. Better ask other and save your time.)

4- PERSPECTIVE -Manytimes

‘ our 6 is 9 for others ‘

What we see might be different for the other. At the same time we both are correct in our own ways. Here we get one mire gift from asking for help. As this develops our perspective for a long term. Sometimes the situations are like that we think we are doing right but reality is that we are

‘kuyein ka medhak’

(means the ‘ frog of the well’ or ‘the world is limited only to that small well in which the frog lives’)

thus our all vivek( from hindi meaning wisdom or mind) got bhrashta( from hindi meaning destroyed or lost) ,we put ourselves to problems . thus when we ask for help ,we get possibilities of correcting ourselves .A step towards success.

5- BOOST MENTAL HEALTH -This we all relate more clearly .Many a times we got stuck in our work but somehow we are not able to do it or complete it. We got frustated so easily and our efficiency comes down. In a parallel world we are sowing the seeds of anxiety ,pressure, tension and stress in our mind. Biggest enemy for all success.

For a long term it leads to Craving( a state of unbalance between the mind and body)according to Buddhist and Sadhus( refer to book -The Attention revolution- Unlocking the Power of the Focussed Mind by B.ALAN WALACE).The strategy is simple .The life is simple. So ask for help…. you will not become small or weak but you will become more wise and effecient for a along term . No need to hesitate ,ask it from anyone who is near you.

Here also we get two profits

  • work is done
  • reduced stress and worry
  • money is saved as there is no need to give money to the doctors in future

Yet there are many more benefits as asking for help also cultivate the communication skills and your personality is developed. You will achieve success in both of your personal as well as proffessional life . And soon you will work more efficiently in all the areas of your life.

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Failed ….Modern Architecture

MINIMALISM…LESS IS MORE…..FORM FOLLOWS FUNCTION…..INNOVATIONS ……MODERN TECHNIQUES……..

If you are associated with architecture than you must be familier with these phrases sometimes or even more often.The whole World is now covered with the so called ‘modern architecture‘. The innovative techniques advancements are done on the daily basis in the field of architecture.

But according to me the true meaning of Architecture lies in the way how we follow our own cultures and traditions.It does not depend on what we perform but how we perform our daily activities. The way how one lives their life and performs their activities by keeping their values and traditions as a North Pole.

Modern Architecture fits in all aspect of a good and civilised society but it cuts the people from their roots.(roots here means of one’s own identity , their culture ,tradition and their link to ancesters)The architecture moulds the human being.They live according to the way their spaces are organised and planned which ultimately decides what they do and how they do…?

It destroyed the real identity of the region and scripted the life of people in the same format.This is boring and has negative impacts for the long term.As architecture is all about the life and its relation with the human being.How one celebrates the built form.?Its a whole journey which includes the study of history and the adaptations along with time to live a more easy and efficient lifestyle.But the –

traditions and culture should always be the guiding light for the Architects

all over the world.More we focus on our roots more we would be able to relate and connect to our ancestors.Also it would help us in getting the real meaning and purpose of life.

I’m not against the modern architecture besides I do like the principles and philosophy of it.But in the most important aspect like the preservation of identity it failed .This is the reason why we see the whole world is wearing the same mask of Glass, Steel and Concrete.We can’t relate any country by just seeing its building individually.

For example when we talk about the Greek and Roman than an image would flash in our minds of the orders of their columns like Doric ,Ionic and Corinthian. Similarly then we talk about any country the image got created in our minds.As a result of this the countries lost their uniqueness.

The Falling Water

By going through the one of the finest architect from the world and his master piece THE FALLING WATER( one of the heritage sites of the world being preserved since 1957) designed by Frank Lolyd Wright.The building opposes the modern architecture in the use of materials .This building is a retreat house itself .By the use of rocks and wood it opposes a modern architecture in a constructive way.

Now a days many architects lost their taste of using the natural materials or they don’t have developed it. The’ truth is that the great architects have made the best use of local materials and also they tried to find the best outfit for their projects ‘(means the materials for their projects).Which ultimately became their identity and their signature styles.

Thus there is a need to change the way we build. In order to preserve the identity and uniqueness of the people.If not taken care than the whole world will look similar.Their would be no distinction between the geographical areas on the basis of their traditions culture and values,which I personally think is important for the coming generations.

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Beyond Architecture-meaning and pleasure

Life is uncertain’.’Nothing is permanent’ these are some universal truth.Nothing in this world is permanent ,except the one who is living with his/her innerself or called ‘I'(according to human values).Many people come and go,yet the real happiness and pleasure is achieved when man (here refers to the human being) comes to understand his inner world.The joy is eternal and will remain with you till your last breath.The Harmony with this only helps you to get the ‘ras‘(meaning the value or taste) of life.

Goals are important for life.They have to be set and achieved, as they do everything.They guide us and keep us focussed and motivated .Growth is the best friend of happiness , they are like laila majnu ( a embodiment of love )many believed that Relationships,money ,fame, recognition bring the tremendious joy but it only the mragtrishna ‘( meaning mirage).

Rabindranath Tagore the first Indian to hold a noble prize for Literature who is the writer of national anthems for two countries India and Bangladesh , his poem ‘Akela Chalo‘ ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=691W-JSAdUI )is the best example of it.A source of guide and inspiration for many people .(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asyCgI716Mk)you may watch his life than you will understand this better.

If someone had recently been through the Ups and Downs of life than one will understand me in more depth.Also,many spiritual people says that ups and down in life make us to understand ourseleves better.They guide us and give us the better meaning of our life and values.

The mantra is simple – ‘Maturity is achieved only after having a taste of loss . than only you will come to understand the meaning of life and purpose.The pleasure comes in abundance after it.’

I had gone through the the biographies of great men and I came to know that the amount of sufferings ‘Bhagvaan’ (Hindu god) gave us, the same amount of happiness is also along with it.He faced many losses in his life but he is more willing to live in present . And the result is that, now he is remembered for his work in the field of literature all along the world.

This life is very beautiful unless the day you understand the ,meaning of life.You will neither regret about the past nor you will worry about the future .The more you live in present .Its just the play of life-everything tiny to large ,materialistic to realistic, the people happiness, money,sufferings,victory and fall are make us tough enough to face the life.

A man who is ‘Alone’ ,his critical imagination plays best.(read Napolean Hills ‘think and grow rich for better understanding’).All the artist ,poets ,people,who reached to a large audience are all ‘messengers of God’.As they guide us to see the life from different perspective .

As written in Gita,( a spiritual book of Hinduism), teaches us that Bhagvan are among our innerselves. This is the reason why I said that the artist are messengers of Bhagvaan. They connect us to the our soul.

Also to sum up,’Life is Uncertain’ and ‘Nothing is Permanent’ , people got attracted to you when you are doing good in your life .’Some people ‘make us or they make us fall‘.The secret lies in the way how we manage or how we face such obstacles . The main content is to be ‘Principle centered ‘concept,its the best for everyone.It makes us more directed towards ourselves and helps us to remain motivated and work on our principles.

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