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Oysters opens completely when the moon is full, and when the crab sees one it throws the stone or seaweed into it and the oyster cannot close again so that it serves the crab for meat. Such is the fate of him who opens his mouth too much and thereby puts himself at the mercy of the listener… Leonardo da Vinci

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Important financial decisions are not made in spreadsheets or in textbooks…. They are made on dinner table… They often aren’t made with intention of maximising return, but minimising the chance of dissapointing a spouse or child…

Important financial decisions are not made in spreadsheets or in textbooks.... They are made on dinner table... --Physchology of Money
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Happiness is as defined – quality friendships, being part of something bigger than ourselves, and spending quality time unstructured time with our family…. Psychology of money… The more control we have in our lives over our time the more happy we are… It’s partially dependent on the money we have or status we have…

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Does money has its own future….?

What every human is desiring for….and for what….? As the whole world has been shifting from last few decades and now it’s been an easy access for everyone to have a bulk of knowledge and by that knowledge everybody is trying to make money by money..

So what might be the future.. What type of lifestyle would it be..? For what does a man will hope for and how to achieve this. ..?

We all have a desire for money and fame. But does having desire to have money and to produce same changes any person. Yeah ,till some extent it’s true that by money we can have a lifestyle but if every body has a lifestyle than would it not be so boring.! Everyone has the bulk of money.. Than do this thing works..? Everybody would be having the same lifestyle. Isn’t it boring or too common to be special..? What thing than matter for everyone.. Is it money or other pleasures of the world..?

From my perspective in future I think that money has no worth. And a simple life would become the new standard of livin. Sitting with wife and family at home and having a general dinner would the luxuries.. People will come back to the books and old cultures too.. The distance that money is creating by having a big bunglow and a big houses on beaches… Do these people even enjoyed the life of a normal. Humans.. Or just counting money is there supreme purpose.. I think that time will come back when people prefer simple living rather than luxuries. They would give money for having a walk on the horses again. As we have seen life before Henry’s invention.. People would love to sit under the trees.. Beyond such huge concrete buildings… Might be my dream.. Just writing random thaughts which are flowing through my mind…

Thankyou for giving your precious time.. Have a great day…😇

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Purpose, Need and Destiny!! Friends…and….Life..?

On reaching maturity and going through the ups and downs of life this is what the true meaning of life is ..

Everything changes by time. Feelings are nothing in this world. People only think about ownselves .. -A truth of this “kalyug” . We are just born to this world at this “yug”. Everyone want their needs and once those needs are fulfilled they leave as you are nothing more than a piece of gum. This world is a very cruel place. Not everyone think of you.

-Lessons of life

These are some of the lessons that we all have seen or learned as we grow in our life. This is truth.

The Power is the one thing which rules the world. The whole human human civillisation is based on it. The one who has ‘power’ is the one who is ‘loved’ by all. Or we can say that the one who has power is needed by all . This means that this world needs nothing from you when you are weak or you have a hard time . This realisation lay us into the bed of arrows.

People want you only, when you have money a, fame or power. Its a evidence from history till date For example-

Even marriage system of every country is also true. Nobody wants to marry their girls to the man who is not having a secured job or is not wealthy. . Even the boy’s side is also the same they also want a girl who is able to do all household work and also does job. Who serves all the family members in need. And also good in looks.

-Reality

This is a vicious circle where we all running.,like a rattrap

As moving ahead I have a lot question in my mind which are unanswered. But before writing this post I have also changed my views and I had selected my life over a relationship. That a girl needs from me . This is truth she is a girl might got marry the other men but what about me who will come along with me If I’m not so rich. Or I don’t have a government Job. Even all the things change. Might be she was not meant for me or I had not meant for her. Or there is a lack of trust among us. She don’t has faith on me or I don’t have on her too.

One question always remains in our mind that -Should our friends stay with us if we are not successful or should our relatives accept us even when we don’t have a bulk of money. I think no. the truth is that we only call our friends when we need them,we generally never ask them how they are or what is happening in their lives. It is truly said in a book that I recently read that -“our circle is getting bigger but the main connection is getting diminished or lost “. It’s very true.

The truth is that no one cares about you We only responsible for our own self. Even love is nothing more than a lust or a mutual needs. No one remains with you during hard times . We only have trust on our parents whom we can blindly trust. No one cares for us. Or for our needs.

Besides all this what should be the purpose of our life that we live ..?

Isn’t the question that we all face or have in our mind. What to do with out own self. Should we get affected by the circumstances or ups and downs of life. And what if you are emotional and you think a lot for all. Who will help you and who is with you. Who are our true friends or when we need them the most.. Or who should be our friends who can help us in our lives…?

As I had read many books and also observed that the main purpose of life is to find a purpose. And everything is revolved around that point. Our every decision and things are based on this factor. The destiny is nothing but more or less than what we made from our life . Our friends our life is all this . During the hard time we have faith in God and during the Good time we say God is happy. But according to me when we are focussed in our life or when we are more directed towards a definite goal we don’t have time to think about time. About what is time and how it is passing . According to Dr.Victor Frankel the author of book ‘Man Search for Meaning’. Our life is nothing but is full of sufferings. We have problems and tensions with us as it is observed that the person who dont have money worries how to get that but a man who has is worried how to use the money. The same exist with all of us. And its true that life is full of sufferings. But the same thing is that the time does not always remains the same. What conditions on faces at one time is easily replaced by the time. Time heals . And time is all what is life…!!

Coming to what is people and what are their needs and what are their desire. They always try to connect to themselves with a big . As we see during the times of elections event the small children call themselves

“hum ounhike kaaryakarta hain”

same they don’t know even how to clean their shits are doing the support for the one party. This is true and practically proved too. Thus now coming back to the topic that what should be the purpose, what are the needs and what is Destiny ..!! who are our friends and what should be the life ..!!

Now giving a brief of what I’m trying to say and what I have understood from my life is that-

Life is nothing but to give it a meaning we need to give it a “purpose”. That purpose is the main thing. It decides what we do and whom we are with. It guides all decisions of our daily life and it makes us what we truely are . Our friends and our relationships are all based on this. But the game is that when you are doing Good they will remain with you. I mean that when you are in power people come to your life and when you don’t have money, fame or power they all leave. Our parents and very few people only remains with us. To live a life, we should move on a track even when its doing good or bad we should have the same response towards it. To don’t get affected by time. It’s a journey and we should enjoy each every step..

Thankyou for your precious time . Please do make efforts to give your comments and also correct me if I’m less correcrt or I get out of track. 🙂

always laugh my friend
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NEARBY SITE VISIT-

Through being an architectural student I love exploring new places and trying to visit almost all the sites which influence me . It’s a process of learning new techniques and methods. It helps me to understand spaces more clearly and also makes us more clear about how the building takes place in this 3-D space. From foundation to the parapet it makes the process so tedious and quiet intresting . These are the some of the photos which I visited near my house.

*This is not my project…. This is a site which is near my home… Just exploring spaces*

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As a mediocre I compromise ..!! As an Artist I love compromising

In what sense the life is good ..? When we give our best to this world and also do our best at personal level..? Why sometimes we forget our deepest desires.? Why we chose the path in just a rush to live a life ..?Is it the meaning of our life which Bhagvaan (God )gave us ..?

This post is for all those who try to excel in all the fields of life. Its a big task and to be efficient and to do all the things.To conquer a lot in our lifes, one has to create a good balance between the main task( means the main work which gives us food or feed our children )and on his side skills( hobbies or else).To follow a passion is easy to say, because in order to live a life in a more secured way special experience and knowledge is required.

When we are born to a middle class family , it’s the duty for our parents to keep us on the right track and to make us more focussed towards studies .But in order to let our passion take breath till our death, we have to make a balance between the both , in other words we need to think differently.

Let me explain why the tiltle is so catchy and how does the idea came in my mind ,what were the things that keeps the many youngsters to kill there passions ..!!

First what it gives to me and what does it took from us —

On reaching to the point, what I observed is that chosing both the things and hustling in between the two. is not a cup of tea . because our mind is not multifunctional. To reach heights we need to focus on one thing at a time . Giving mind extra pressure to excel in both of our fields is not a worthy game. It keeps us away from both, but to keep a balance is necessary .

What does my hobby of rapping gave me ..? Why I’m different from croud and Why does I have my own ideas and perspective towards all things..?these are the basic things which side passion gave to me –

  • gave me Identity
  • gave me happiness
  • increases creativity
  • gave me perspective
  • make me more connected to people
  • prevents boredom
  • *and the pleasure of recieving love from all those people who love my performances whenever I kept my leg on stage *

But trying to keep legs on the two boats is difficult , All it required patience and dedication. But more over, it brings joy that is much more than money or any other things in this world .The feeling of fullfillment gave inner peace .

As to born in a mediocre family we need to have a secured future therefore our parents usually scold us , they are-

hamaare baap hain von ‘( famous saying in countries where hindi is used meaning that ‘he is our father’ generally used to jear people)

they know much more about ourselves and also of this world .They have more experience than what we think we have .They had already passed through all the ages which we are passing now . And most important they are the only one who truely want good for us. We can trust only on our parents in this world blindly. (till now what I found in my life).That’s may be the reason that they scold many of us for following our passions. But to some extent they are true in all sense .

I found many singers who are against there parents of sometimes they even they try to abuse there parents for that. Its not fair, may be the mindset of such cheap artist is just bullshit.This is wrong and I fekt very sad for this atlast they gave you birth we should respect amd accept them for whatever they had done to us.

Being mediocre is good , many great men told us that before.Because when we are mediocre in any field we come to learn from both the top and bottom .This is place where we see the toppers also we see the people who are below us . This makes us more aware what actually the conditions and cases are..? We are able to observe the things in three ways .It just acts as the third mind as listed in the book “Think and Grow rich “by Napoleon Hill

Many times, we try to copy the toppers in case of studies, but what we get in hand is dissapointment . It only makes us feel guilty for either not getting good marks or not getting in the toppers list.It also sometimes makes us feel inferior to those who are above us.

to the second face of the coin what I found that –

I’m far better than them ,the feeling of not holding the first position gets neutralised by the rewards that I recieve whenever I go to stage. I have a inner feeling of accompishment that atleast what they are doing is meant for them and what is meant for me is what I m doing.This also is important because –

“when every body becomes extraordinary than no one is actually estraordinary

as mentioned in the book ‘The subtle art of not giving a F*ck’ by ‘Mark Manson ‘

And in this way I am always good in my eyes, and they are good- ‘kitaabi kidaas‘.Also ,what I found that what teacher told us (talking about the studies ) in any class we rarely remember them, but what we can easily remember is our past performances or whenever we had done something much more than studies .Or win any competetion for example.

We feel connected to our innerselves when we remember of the things that gave us happiness at one time like -performing on stage or winning a race , or winning any competetion ,what I think is even participation is also far better than being the ‘ kitaabi keeda’. And sitting like a dumb in the class seeing the faces of others and just sitting only…..

I’m not against those students or studies.Eduation is must and it should be our priority in all aspects of our life. The education only makes a person accepted by the community.It teaches a indivdual how to live a life in a more ethical and cultural way. This is the same thing that what our religious teachings teach us. Only because of good education we are able to change the world or to bring a change in this world .

Thus coming to the end of this post I would llike to summarise by saying that we have to keep our studies a priority but also we should not kill our passions or hobbies for the same . As they are our Identity and they gave us the meaning to our existence much more than that what studies give . Also the rewards that we achieve from the people whom we present our skills is much more valuable than any other thing in this world .it can’t be purchased from the money .Further more it adds value to our life …. 🙂

Thankyou for giving your precipus time and please do give your views and ideas .. Its only because of you all that I’m able to express myself in a better way ..!!

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An Architect and a Civil Engineer

“Civil engineers acts like Words but Architects play the role of the poets”

by -Utkarsh Mishra
so to have a beautiful poem ,words have to be arranged meaningfully and logically binded with the chain of creativity...

The most common problem people face nowadays is that they don’t understand who are Civil Engineers and who are Architects ..? May be the reason that they are less aware or our country is still lagging behind in the field of Architecture .Many people get confused between the two. Its like a curse for any person who belongs to a specific field and people call him or her by the other proffession ,its more like a heartbreak.

While on one hand Architecture is totally depend on feelings and philosophical concept, while The Civil Engineering is fully based on the structural and safety of human beings. Both are required and are equally important for the human beings. Because human beings need the both physical and emotional balance to live a live beautifully and meaningfully

As I’m an Architect ,therefore I will try to make your mind clear about what Civil Engineer’s don’t do. In this way you can easily understand the relationship and the wide difference between the two.

1-Architects are masters for making plans. They do the same thing for five years of their college life and the whole life.(plans means the architecture drawing floor plans and all.

2-We know about the physchology of human behavior and work in that way. We play with the spaces by adding the feelings. As JAHA HADID mam said that ‘the buildings rose our senses and they enhance our feelings’ .At some places we feel excited and enthusiastic but at some places we feel bored and sad. All is the play of the magic of Architecture and feelings.

3- An Architect guides all the functional aspects of abuilding and makes a person to move on a desired path.One of the major reasons why some malls and monuments attract the visitors again and again.It’s the magic of the Architecture.In this way the people got some time to live with themselves and they find peace from their busy lives.

4-‘An Architecture is a form of art and Not every body is an Artist’ .An Architect adds more value to our lives by adding the more and more meaning and a type of lifestyle. as it is said –

‘We shape buildings and than buildings shapes us’

5- Architecture is a very broad field and a lot of scope .But one must have that much of courage to withstand all the obstacles and live a very busy life. Many think that drawing the lines on a peice of paper is a very easy task. Yes it is but to give a meaningful drawings their is a lot of thaught process that undergoes .We have to do a lot of casestudies site visits and all the work .Its more like a proffession of a doctor.

I will say that -‘Doctors are the second face of God but an Architect enlightens us like God by the atmosphere.’

By -Utkarsh Mishra

6-” An art is an imagination and imagination has no limits so the Architecture” .But when it comes to the Civil Engineering there is a set of rules As Engineering is based on the concepts of Physics and there are the rules and laws which needs to be followed .

7-When seen on the wide scale its only because of the Architecture that our cultures and traditions are being preserved As I heard somewhere that “to destroy the culture of any country destroy all its Art and Architecture” .So now you can understand that how we are preserving our culture and also to make our new generation we conserve for future.Let me explain about this let me give you a example–>

As all the Muslims Go for Hajj to Madinah once in their lifetime and at a small scale they go to Masjids,Similarly All Hindu Go to the old Ghats and Temples . In future they would prefer to go to Ayodhya (Ram Janm Bhoomi where the RAM [Hindu God]Temple is now begin to construct under the Yogi's Raj) By the way- 'Bhagvaan ek roop anek'(God is one but the faces are different).But than also because of religious beliefs and culture Architecture preserves all. Our future generations will only see what we built today they will understand the meaning and their past only by these Architectural works.

Well that’s enough that now you are able to make a difference between the two, but lets give a focus on the Civil Engineers also they are masters in the structural framework and all about the safety of the persons living inside any structure .Both Architects and Civil Engineers are equally important for any good project .We both work silmultaneously on a projects and it requires a lot of team work and efforts to set a masterpeice for the future that is built in present .We are the two faces of a coin.

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Ask for Help.. it truely helps….

Asking for help is one of the best strategy used by the wise men .Seeking advice and asking for help, it really helps. This life is short and we have a little time to achieve goals’. One has to adopt the habit of asking help in this competetive world. This idea would be more clear, when you will stick to my words till the end of this blog.

As according to time, we adapt ourselves according to our enviornment .(rule of the science ‘Survival of the Fittest‘) .The one who is more adaptive and advanced survives. Similarly we have to modify ourselves according to time and conditions. It is well said that-

jamaane k saath chalna chahiye…”

So ,according to above concept and the theme if this post-

hum akele hi sab kr lenge”

…. fails .This concept is good for a short span or small victory but to achieve more its not worthy to do all things alone.

To achieve the public victory( refer to book- The 7 Habits of Effective people by Coveys Stephan)you have to rely on others for your need. This is more practical concept and proved too…(I am not encouraging to be selfish, be clear to what I say and find the boundry of my words).This depends on the law of ‘GIVE AND TAKE‘. If you will help others than only others will help you .Simple,follow this rule and keep moving on.

The whole world is now flying on the wings of modernisation and technology. We have abundance of money and all the materialistic things that we gather for our comfort. But what we lack is the time -‘God father of everything on this planet’. We have so little of this for our ownself.

Not going to deep and trying to be specific and focussed .Let me explain the gifts when we ask for help.

1-TIME–Time is the one of the best asset that we have .Its profit depends on how we invest it…?In every proffessional field he proffessionals have a good workload

TIME<<WORK

Thus, to enhance our efficiency and to and to do a large work within a given time frame. It does not shows that we are weak but it gives them the importance that they are being recognised and they are capable of doing something for others.

2-RELATIONSHIPS- In all this process we get engaged with others. And its natural when we ask for help than there is some type of communication .No matter what it be but it builds the relationship with the other person. It gives you two profits

  • your work is being completed
  • you get one more friend in your life

3-VISION-whenever we ask for help than there are two probabilities

  • the other will help
  • or not help

When they select the first than the two minds come into play and and the work would be far better and we will get a broad vision for ourself.

(If they help than they will surely give there best services to you,if they don’t than don’t mind, might be they don’t know how to do the work.? or they might facing there own work or problems. Better ask other and save your time.)

4- PERSPECTIVE -Manytimes

‘ our 6 is 9 for others ‘

What we see might be different for the other. At the same time we both are correct in our own ways. Here we get one mire gift from asking for help. As this develops our perspective for a long term. Sometimes the situations are like that we think we are doing right but reality is that we are

‘kuyein ka medhak’

(means the ‘ frog of the well’ or ‘the world is limited only to that small well in which the frog lives’)

thus our all vivek( from hindi meaning wisdom or mind) got bhrashta( from hindi meaning destroyed or lost) ,we put ourselves to problems . thus when we ask for help ,we get possibilities of correcting ourselves .A step towards success.

5- BOOST MENTAL HEALTH -This we all relate more clearly .Many a times we got stuck in our work but somehow we are not able to do it or complete it. We got frustated so easily and our efficiency comes down. In a parallel world we are sowing the seeds of anxiety ,pressure, tension and stress in our mind. Biggest enemy for all success.

For a long term it leads to Craving( a state of unbalance between the mind and body)according to Buddhist and Sadhus( refer to book -The Attention revolution- Unlocking the Power of the Focussed Mind by B.ALAN WALACE).The strategy is simple .The life is simple. So ask for help…. you will not become small or weak but you will become more wise and effecient for a along term . No need to hesitate ,ask it from anyone who is near you.

Here also we get two profits

  • work is done
  • reduced stress and worry
  • money is saved as there is no need to give money to the doctors in future

Yet there are many more benefits as asking for help also cultivate the communication skills and your personality is developed. You will achieve success in both of your personal as well as proffessional life . And soon you will work more efficiently in all the areas of your life.

Thankyou for giving your precious time … :)please do like and share your ideas so that I can connect with you more easily and express my views more openly .

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Architecture – ‘TREASURE OF IDENTITY’

India is a large country with rich culture and traditions.With one of the finest example of artwork of Mughal Architecture-” TAJ MAHAL” .Built on the bond of love .It captures visitors from all over the world.It gave the country its identity on the map of world occupying the place in one of seven wonders of the World.Yet there are many truths which are hidden which needs to be unfolded.

To through some light, let me make you aware layer by layer.As on the one layer we see a lot of population who are getting modern each day.They get the best outfits for their outgoings. By wearing the fake mask, they keep their social accounts and photos to a large number of filters….

While going to the ground reports, we find that people when asked about their questions on how their homes be like and whom they like to hire…? their answers be like

…. I will get it on internet as there are much available there …….

and also some be like

... ummm…..the house we are living on rent, we will get our house on the same plans…

I can’t understand why..?

Let me give you a example to understand more clearly ,

“If you are a ‘LOIN’ and you are said to wear the outfit of ‘DONKEY.’..Will u wear it..?”

or

“If you are a boy and someone offers you a set of skirt and bikney…Will ypu accept it ..?”

The same case arises on our home tooo…. As we can’t live our life on the others identity similarly we can’t live in the other’s house..your house is your’s ,it is fit for your’s personality…We all have our own identity which is represented by our outfits…

Why their mindset are set so… ? either they don’t read books or they are much more stick to the serials like saas -bahu and so which is degrading the minds of people slowly and slowly.

Also ,this might be the reason that only a little population are reaching to the designers in our country .I think that there is a yet a large more distance to travel for our country to get the full freedom from this mindset.

Some might have a large questions in their minds that Architects are too expensive to hire ..!! Yes this is true we are expensive.But they don’t see that they are not spending but they are investing for their ownself in all aspects-MONEY , HEALTH , LIFESTYLE

  • MONEY as you save a lot in energy efficiency of building, a lot on faulty construction and also a building which is made well designed functionally,they can be sold on a good prices than any average building
  • HEALTH as you are going to build a healthy habits and this bring psychological and a physical well being too, as written by Napoleon Hill in his book’THINK AND GROW RICH’
  • LIFESTYLE you will easily achieve

So there is a need to clear it from ground.There should be more awareness programmes among people.They should be taught about its importance .Also, not only for Architecture but for all fields there should be courses for students, so that they can explore and find fields of their interest for their future and for this country .As the Taj Mahal is holding the identity, in same way our people should also have their IDENTITY.