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Purpose, Need and Destiny!! Friends…and….Life..?

On reaching maturity and going through the ups and downs of life this is what the true meaning of life is ..

Everything changes by time. Feelings are nothing in this world. People only think about ownselves .. -A truth of this “kalyug” . We are just born to this world at this “yug”. Everyone want their needs and once those needs are fulfilled they leave as you are nothing more than a piece of gum. This world is a very cruel place. Not everyone think of you.

-Lessons of life

These are some of the lessons that we all have seen or learned as we grow in our life. This is truth.

The Power is the one thing which rules the world. The whole human human civillisation is based on it. The one who has ‘power’ is the one who is ‘loved’ by all. Or we can say that the one who has power is needed by all . This means that this world needs nothing from you when you are weak or you have a hard time . This realisation lay us into the bed of arrows.

People want you only, when you have money a, fame or power. Its a evidence from history till date For example-

Even marriage system of every country is also true. Nobody wants to marry their girls to the man who is not having a secured job or is not wealthy. . Even the boy’s side is also the same they also want a girl who is able to do all household work and also does job. Who serves all the family members in need. And also good in looks.

-Reality

This is a vicious circle where we all running.,like a rattrap

As moving ahead I have a lot question in my mind which are unanswered. But before writing this post I have also changed my views and I had selected my life over a relationship. That a girl needs from me . This is truth she is a girl might got marry the other men but what about me who will come along with me If I’m not so rich. Or I don’t have a government Job. Even all the things change. Might be she was not meant for me or I had not meant for her. Or there is a lack of trust among us. She don’t has faith on me or I don’t have on her too.

One question always remains in our mind that -Should our friends stay with us if we are not successful or should our relatives accept us even when we don’t have a bulk of money. I think no. the truth is that we only call our friends when we need them,we generally never ask them how they are or what is happening in their lives. It is truly said in a book that I recently read that -“our circle is getting bigger but the main connection is getting diminished or lost “. It’s very true.

The truth is that no one cares about you We only responsible for our own self. Even love is nothing more than a lust or a mutual needs. No one remains with you during hard times . We only have trust on our parents whom we can blindly trust. No one cares for us. Or for our needs.

Besides all this what should be the purpose of our life that we live ..?

Isn’t the question that we all face or have in our mind. What to do with out own self. Should we get affected by the circumstances or ups and downs of life. And what if you are emotional and you think a lot for all. Who will help you and who is with you. Who are our true friends or when we need them the most.. Or who should be our friends who can help us in our lives…?

As I had read many books and also observed that the main purpose of life is to find a purpose. And everything is revolved around that point. Our every decision and things are based on this factor. The destiny is nothing but more or less than what we made from our life . Our friends our life is all this . During the hard time we have faith in God and during the Good time we say God is happy. But according to me when we are focussed in our life or when we are more directed towards a definite goal we don’t have time to think about time. About what is time and how it is passing . According to Dr.Victor Frankel the author of book ‘Man Search for Meaning’. Our life is nothing but is full of sufferings. We have problems and tensions with us as it is observed that the person who dont have money worries how to get that but a man who has is worried how to use the money. The same exist with all of us. And its true that life is full of sufferings. But the same thing is that the time does not always remains the same. What conditions on faces at one time is easily replaced by the time. Time heals . And time is all what is life…!!

Coming to what is people and what are their needs and what are their desire. They always try to connect to themselves with a big . As we see during the times of elections event the small children call themselves

“hum ounhike kaaryakarta hain”

same they don’t know even how to clean their shits are doing the support for the one party. This is true and practically proved too. Thus now coming back to the topic that what should be the purpose, what are the needs and what is Destiny ..!! who are our friends and what should be the life ..!!

Now giving a brief of what I’m trying to say and what I have understood from my life is that-

Life is nothing but to give it a meaning we need to give it a “purpose”. That purpose is the main thing. It decides what we do and whom we are with. It guides all decisions of our daily life and it makes us what we truely are . Our friends and our relationships are all based on this. But the game is that when you are doing Good they will remain with you. I mean that when you are in power people come to your life and when you don’t have money, fame or power they all leave. Our parents and very few people only remains with us. To live a life, we should move on a track even when its doing good or bad we should have the same response towards it. To don’t get affected by time. It’s a journey and we should enjoy each every step..

Thankyou for your precious time . Please do make efforts to give your comments and also correct me if I’m less correcrt or I get out of track. πŸ™‚

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Our Ancesters were master’s

Our mind is the onlyΒ  thing whose limits are infinite.. Hey welcome you all hope you are doing well.. Let’s discuss today about our beliefs and our old traditions in our culture..

Yesterday I attended a function I heard my father saying that ki humein kabhi bhi bura nahi bolna chahiye apne baare mein.. Means we should never talk negative about ourselves… Because within the 24 hours Maa Saraswati aprm Godess Saraswati comes to our young.. She make the things to happen..

It’s a old saying and we all believed it.  But scientifically it’s proven that our mind is so powerful it soaks all the things that we speak from our mouth.. But our mind does not has a tendency to find what is good and what is bad for us.. It’s so immature to find the difference between what is positive and what is negative.. After listening to my father I start thinking about it.. And than I realised that our ancestors know about the power of subconcious mind and also they know much more about it..

Still today many old beliefs and baatein Or thaughts of our grand fathers and gurus are 100% correct.. They are never wrong. I just like all the “kahawats” the sayings that we hear from people.. It also adds beauty to our talks and also gives us more value.. And the best thing is that they teach us much more about the life than we know..

Just a random thaught..

Please do like and share your thaughts.. πŸ˜‡.. Please share some of your favourite thaughts or sayings of your grandfathers of older people

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Ask for Help.. it truely helps….

Asking for help is one of the best strategy used by the wise men .Seeking advice and asking for help, it really helps. This life is short and we have a little time to achieve goals’. One has to adopt the habit of asking help in this competetive world. This idea would be more clear, when you will stick to my words till the end of this blog.

As according to time, we adapt ourselves according to our enviornment .(rule of the science ‘Survival of the Fittest‘) .The one who is more adaptive and advanced survives. Similarly we have to modify ourselves according to time and conditions. It is well said that-

jamaane k saath chalna chahiye…”

So ,according to above concept and the theme if this post-

hum akele hi sab kr lenge”

…. fails .This concept is good for a short span or small victory but to achieve more its not worthy to do all things alone.

To achieve the public victory( refer to book- The 7 Habits of Effective people by Coveys Stephan)you have to rely on others for your need. This is more practical concept and proved too…(I am not encouraging to be selfish, be clear to what I say and find the boundry of my words).This depends on the law of ‘GIVE AND TAKE‘. If you will help others than only others will help you .Simple,follow this rule and keep moving on.

The whole world is now flying on the wings of modernisation and technology. We have abundance of money and all the materialistic things that we gather for our comfort. But what we lack is the time -‘God father of everything on this planet’. We have so little of this for our ownself.

Not going to deep and trying to be specific and focussed .Let me explain the gifts when we ask for help.

1-TIME–Time is the one of the best asset that we have .Its profit depends on how we invest it…?In every proffessional field he proffessionals have a good workload

TIME<<WORK

Thus, to enhance our efficiency and to and to do a large work within a given time frame. It does not shows that we are weak but it gives them the importance that they are being recognised and they are capable of doing something for others.

2-RELATIONSHIPS- In all this process we get engaged with others. And its natural when we ask for help than there is some type of communication .No matter what it be but it builds the relationship with the other person. It gives you two profits

  • your work is being completed
  • you get one more friend in your life

3-VISION-whenever we ask for help than there are two probabilities

  • the other will help
  • or not help

When they select the first than the two minds come into play and and the work would be far better and we will get a broad vision for ourself.

(If they help than they will surely give there best services to you,if they don’t than don’t mind, might be they don’t know how to do the work.? or they might facing there own work or problems. Better ask other and save your time.)

4- PERSPECTIVE -Manytimes

‘ our 6 is 9 for others ‘

What we see might be different for the other. At the same time we both are correct in our own ways. Here we get one mire gift from asking for help. As this develops our perspective for a long term. Sometimes the situations are like that we think we are doing right but reality is that we are

‘kuyein ka medhak’

(means the ‘ frog of the well’ or ‘the world is limited only to that small well in which the frog lives’)

thus our all vivek( from hindi meaning wisdom or mind) got bhrashta( from hindi meaning destroyed or lost) ,we put ourselves to problems . thus when we ask for help ,we get possibilities of correcting ourselves .A step towards success.

5- BOOST MENTAL HEALTH -This we all relate more clearly .Many a times we got stuck in our work but somehow we are not able to do it or complete it. We got frustated so easily and our efficiency comes down. In a parallel world we are sowing the seeds of anxiety ,pressure, tension and stress in our mind. Biggest enemy for all success.

For a long term it leads to Craving( a state of unbalance between the mind and body)according to Buddhist and Sadhus( refer to book -The Attention revolution- Unlocking the Power of the Focussed Mind by B.ALAN WALACE).The strategy is simple .The life is simple. So ask for help…. you will not become small or weak but you will become more wise and effecient for a along term . No need to hesitate ,ask it from anyone who is near you.

Here also we get two profits

  • work is done
  • reduced stress and worry
  • money is saved as there is no need to give money to the doctors in future

Yet there are many more benefits as asking for help also cultivate the communication skills and your personality is developed. You will achieve success in both of your personal as well as proffessional life . And soon you will work more efficiently in all the areas of your life.

Thankyou for giving your precious time … :)please do like and share your ideas so that I can connect with you more easily and express my views more openly .

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A guide to Architects… “MARS” OR “SLUMS”

We are going to have settlement on‘Mars’. A large area of our Earth is occupied by the humans.We are digging forests,and touching the sky.Urbanisation , Infrastructure and modernisation has spreaded their wings all around.

One of the major reason may be the population but I do think that the greed of human had contributed to this a lot. Thus it created a conflict between human and animals, moreover it created an imbalance at a global scale, As this year ,we saw an example of ‘Tiddi’ (https://www.livehindustan.com/tags/tiddi-attack )attacks in the some parts of Pakistan as well as in and western India.It destroyed the a large amount of crops as a result .

In the Country like India, where there a large number of people are below poverty line, they even don’t have roofs to keep their head beneath. Yes, I’m talking about the people in slums.. irony is here...

Musk is going to have a Human settlement on Mars, yet we are still lagging here.

I think that growing the quantity does not means when it comes to quality. Thus, If we want a country to reach heights. Than we must improve the quality of all men. As said by the Dr.B.R Ambedkar https://shodhganga.inflibnet.ac.in/bitstream/10603/149691/8/08_chapter_03.pdf we keep on working towards in this aspect than we can build a more developed and planned areas for them to have a Good and Effective life.They also can act as an Asset for any Country’s growth ,if guided properly.

Moreover ,if we (Architects) focus on the upliftment of life of such people, than we can achieve a lot in the humanity. As we are the God of settlements,than we can do a small share in this too…by having the more planned and well setteld areas for them so that they can also do their share in the groth of our country.

Growth is important as it’s a symbolism of life. Similarly to have a more balanced life on this earth. We need to adopt more and more Economical and Efficient methodoly for the buildings .Their is a more need to create more adaptible and flexible Architecture but without harming the nature at it only leads the humanity to problems. Also more vernacular and substainable Architecture should be adopted. Without harming the harmony of this ecosystem…!

PLEASE DO GIVE YOUR VIEWS AND IMPROVEMENTS FOR THE BETTERMENT OF THIS WORLD